It's the start of the new academic year and we all hope our children are learning new and exciting things.


In this edition I've learnt something new!  

My parent blogger Nic writes about "Tall Poppy Syndrome".  A social phenomenon in which adults or children of genuine merit are resented, attacked, cut down, or criticised because their talents or achievements distinguish them from their peers.  


Does this happen to your child? Or maybe it happens to you?    Find out more by reading on................



The beginning of a new school year is always just like the beginning of a new calendar year for me.    Full of expectations of myself and resolutions to be;

  • more organised,

  • eat better,

  • have a tidier house,

  • have more time to spend together helping them with their school work or play a game

  • have "perfectly" behaved children etc

The list is endless.


In a nutshell I Want to be SUPERWOMAN!!   The fact that I know this is impossible doesn't seem to register in my head.    The reality is that;

  • most days I will be reasonably organised, other days I will fly by the seat of my pants and be washing socks at 10 o'clock at night after a visit from that sneaky and invisible sock monster!

  • I will make salad at night for lunch the next day on a fairly regular basis, but some nights I will forget and hurriedly grab a sandwich on the way to work in the morning.

  • My children won't be perfect as there is no such thing but I will love them just the same.

As for the house ? I have four children so it's never going to happen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


So I decided this year the only resolution I started the term with was to be kinder to myself.  Most days!


So after getting the two older children off to school on Monday without too much nagging, I left the reasonably tidy house clutching my salad (which was quite revolting by the way)! and took "small boy" and "small girl" (wearing matching, clean socks),  to nanny's and then went off to work.


It was at a meeting that I attended that day that led me to make another promise to myself. This one though I definitely will try my hardest to follow through.


I came across something I hadn't heard of before..........Tall Poppy Syndrome. The definition of this is "the fact that people do not like and often criticize other people who are successful"


Obviously there is a bit more to it than that and I'll leave you to read up on it if it interests you. It really got me thinking though. It is so true.


We live in a society where it's not really acceptable to be proud of ourselves and our achievements and others do knock us down when we are particularly good at something or doing well in life.   Our children are victims of Tall Poppy Syndrome too!  Criticised by their peers (and sometimes adults too) for being clever academically or gifted at art or music or sport - accused of being cocky or showing off!   Maybe we need to reflect on that point.


So it was then, I decided we would become a family of tall poppies.


I am going to encourage my children to be proud of themselves and celebrate their achievements and stand tall.   I am also going to encourage them to build other people up and support others in being proud of themselves too.


The world would be a much nicer place if we all helped to build each other up and encouraged one another rather than being critical and cutting down our tall poppies.

Let us build up our self esteem and confidence and that of our children and be a bit kinder to each other.


Go on give it a might be pleasantly surprised!


Please reload

© 2019 Natural Flair Coaching Limited